Chocolate Body Painting

Posted on October 22, 2012 by Sharon

The pleasure of chocolate and whipped cream is obvious, sex aside. Mix the two together and you have sheer, if messy, heaven…Chocolate body paints have been around for a few decades now. I recall the first time I heard of them in the early 1990’s when a friend of mine had a small retail store and she decided to carry some as a novelty item after she and her boyfriend at the time had tried it out and liked it. She laughed as she told me what naughty fun it was to paint naughty words on each others bodies and then proceed to lick them off with gusto!

It seems like a fun thing for sure. Cans of whipped cream have long been making blow jobs a bit more fun. There is a body writing fetish, where some guys like to write naughty words all over their partners, kind of marking them as their territory in doing so. Chocolate is certainly a lot more fun and temporary than a Sharpie marking pen! Though ones truly into that body writing fetish would only be pleased with the long lasting permanence of the marking pens. The chocolate is just a lick or a shower away from being erased totally.

I recall one male client that was into sucking cock liked to have chocolate involved and he said how grand it would be to have chocolate taste like cum, rather than most people that would say the opposite, to have cum taste like chocolate! He was a character to be sure. He loved to incorporate food into his and his partners love play, it just made it a lot more fun for him.

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Let’s Get it On With Some Mood Music…

Posted on October 15, 2012 by Sharon

Many people love to incorporate music into their lovemaking. Background music can add to the enjoyment for many, others find it distracting. Most people are music lovers though and like mood music to add to the experience. I’m in the find it distracting category.

I was inspired to write this after seeing a poll recently that had men’s and women’s opinions on this topic, and twice as many men found background music distracting as women did. Women overwhelmingly preferred to have music on in the background. I guess I’m with the boys on this one. I’d rather concentrate on my partner than be thinking of music in the background.

There have been some memorable music and sex scenes in movies, there was a funny scene from the movie “10” about the Ravel’s Bolero and how it’s perfectly written to have sex to. It’s a very funny movie I recommend. We can all think of various movies, usually comedies, where some guy is trying to seduce a girl and lowers the lights and puts on the “mood music” in the hopes of quickly turning things naughty

I have one client that loves to masturbate to fast paced pop songs, Avril Lavigne in particular, he pumps and pumps, it sounds like more of a workout than a relaxing masturbatory session, but whatever floats your boat. Music can add a different mood to any situation, but for background music for sex, both people should be in agreement as to what to listen to so one isn’t distracted at the others’ expense. What adds to an experience for some, takes away for another.

 

 

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Multi Orgasmic

Posted on October 8, 2012 by Sharon

One thing a lot of men are jealous about in women is their sexual stamina. The ability of many of us have to be multi orgasmic. Now don’t get me wrong, I know some guys are able to go multiple rounds, some certainly are, but not most. Most fall into the “One and you’re done” category. Now as long as they can last as long as I need them too, it’s usually not an issue if they can only cum once, but given the choice, I would of course always choose a guy that can match me orgasm for orgasm.

I don’t mind if they need to rest in between for 10-15 minutes, that is a good length of time for everyone to calm down, catch their breath and get ready for the next round. I don’t need to keep going with no breaks, but when they can keep going with you, I just find it a more pleasurable match. Even young ones are not always able to go round after round. I’m not sure what makes one able to continue on and another be out after one, but multi guys will always be my faves for sure!

Women luckily just do not have the same problems, staying hard, so we can’t relate since we have never had that issue. As long as I’ve caught my breath, I can keep going, but it can get to a numb state down there that stimulation gets difficult to bring you over that orgasmic edge. I can always cum, even if not horny, though it can take effort, sometimes a lot, but I can. I mentioned that to a guy and he couldn’t even imagine cumming if not horny, since they kind of have to be hard, and if not horny, then they are not hard, they have more variables than women do to overcome. More factors at play. Though I have talked to guys that can cum when not totally hard, ones that have erectile dysfunction problems. They really have their bodies working against them in a way women simply do not. Poor bastards!

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I Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter!

Posted on October 1, 2012 by Sharon

In “The Last Tango in Paris”, they used butter. In one of the “American Pie” movies, the horny teen accidentally used quick drying glue. What did they have in common? They were looking for a smooooooth ride with lube. There’s no better sex than “wet sex”. Dry is no good at all. A lot of women simply do not produce enough natural lubrication to make things a smooth ride shall we say. Getting older in the post menopausal years also creates a decrease for most in their lubrication.

There are so many different lubes out there, all with their own pros and cons, all you can do is try a variety and decide what works best for you.

I have tried a few different ones myself, with varying degrees of success. The silicone ones I do not care for, they leave a hard to remove coating on your skin. The thinner ones have an oily like consistency I don’t care for either. I tried the KY warming one in a sample I was mailed and didn’t care for it, it was a slightly warming feeling, but the oily consistency didn’t prove a smooth ride. The thicker, gel like regular KY feels the best to me.

I like the good old, cheap as it comes regular KY, which is good at first, but as it’s water based, and your skin quickly absorbs the water in it, you’re left with a gummy paste. I hate to say it, but the best thing to keep that gumminess down is a bit of saliva. Not the most charming answer, but, it does thin it out. I don’t think many of us have squirt bottle of water bedside to spray ourselves down with to thin down the lube as it gets gummy, but we do have spit readily available and many use it, believe me.

There are also flavored lubes, made for oral sex to make it more enjoyable and tastier. You just have to decide and experiment for yourself and decide what feels best and has longer lasting effects for you. There are so many to choose from in a wide range of prices.

 

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Orgasms

Posted on September 24, 2012 by Sharon

What greater pleasure is there when it comes to sex or masturbation than an orgasm? That is the ultimate goal now, isn’t it? To be able to so simply produce such a fantastic sensation by a bit of rubbing, it’s incredible. To be able to alleviate that feeling of horniness and genital pressure and feel so good, it’s a wonderful thing that makes the world go round.

A woman can have sex without an orgasm, but for even procreation to exist, it needs that orgasm to get things pumping. Now technically, I know some sperm can exist in pre ejaculatory fluid and a conception can take place, but the majority is in the ejaculate which comes from the ultimate pleasure of the human orgasm.

It feels so good, no need to wait to have a sexual partner to make us feel that, just by enjoying ourselves from a young age most of us can experience that spectacular feeling of release and satisfaction and relaxation that comes from having an orgasm.

Medicine has long studied the effects of such an event. It seems hard to understand people would ever want others to not enjoy themselves, that they went out of their way to inhibit having orgasms that were not for procreative purposes. Anti masturbatory devices and guilt trips by religions, etc.

An orgasm makes your entire body relax, is a good cardio vascular workout, gets your blood pumping and keeps your reproductive plumbing in good working order. Men are in the best prostate health if they are having a minimum of 21 orgasms a month. Keeping things inside and inhibited does no one any good.

If you’re not lucky enough to have a partner, then you have to go it alone, but it still feels mighty good. It might not be emotionally satisfying, as one of my guys calls it, a “utility orgasm” is just a release, but keeps you sane. Try and have as many as possible!

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