This latest guy I’ve been seeing asked me pretty soon after we met if I’d ever been choked erotically during sex. I was a bit concerned and was momentarily worried he wanted to hurt me or have me experience pain, but after he explained it he asked if we could try it and if I didn’t like him, I could just tap him on the shoulder and he would stop immediately and not ask again. I fully expected this was what was going to happen, but it didn’t. I got into it and liked it.
He didn’t hurt me, but it gave me a much more intense orgasm than without doing it and now every time we have sex, one of us is doing it to the other, we bother enjoy it. It’s not something you should do without discussing it first, that would be a mistake and give someone the wrong impression, but if you talk about it and agree to at least try it, I’m thinking you will, likely enjoy it and really get into it. Many times the one getting choked wants it to be done even harder than their partner is doing it to them.
Now there have been times when it’s gone to far and sadly a partner will actually die, you do not want to be in an instance like this, you really need to have safe signals set up beforehand so no one takes things too far. Rough sex can be fun and it can be safe, but you really need to pay attention to your partners cues and know when things have gone too far. It is a way to intensify your sex sessions though and it’s always fun to experiment and try new things. Being in a rut is boring, expand your sexual horizons.
