For most people, after a kiss, a hand job would be the first step they would take to get to know someone on a more intimate level. It can be at times a bit more difficult to perfect a hand job than a blow job, because most people cannot give themselves a blow job, but most everyone masturbates and usually in the same way, so they are very used to a certain type of touch. It can be difficult to instruct someone just how to touch us just how we’re used to, so you need to learn to communicate how best to do it.
Sometimes masturbating with the other person’s hand on top of yours is an excellent way for the to feel how you like to be touched, and obviously having them watch you masturbate will give them the right idea of how you liked to be touched. Some women like a very firm touch, others feather light and barely grazing them, so it can vary widely from person to person just what they like. Watch and learn, observe and replicate.
Some people just seem to have a natural talent for pleasing others, with their hands, mouth, cock, kissing, some seem natural born lovers and they just seem to take to it like a duck to water. Others need more direct instruction, lots of observation, and they can often feel like their partner is being like a traffic cop in bed, but unless you tell someone, they cannot read your mind, and in fact you could like things quite differently than their previous partners, so you need to learn how they like to be touched. A hand job can be an easier way for some women to reach orgasm, than intercourse, so a good hand job is welcomed by all.
