Loss Of Control

Posted on October 29, 2012 by Sharon

Do you like giving your partner control over your sexual pleasure? It can be fun to let another control your orgasms, when and where and how many you will be having. A sex toy some enjoy for this purpose is the remote controlled vibrating egg.

I recall one man I used to talk to told me how he and his girlfriend put the egg inside of her before going out shopping and he had the remote control for it in his pocket. He would jolt her as they were walking around shopping and how when she couldn’t take it anymore she was leaning against a wall and people were staring at her as she came and some of them thought she was unwell the way she was groaning, but of course they had no idea she was in the throes of orgasm!

He was laughing as he told me how amusing it was and how she had no control whatsoever over the situation. It sounded like fun honestly. Tease and denial is big for a few clients of mine, they like to be brought to the brink and then denied, over and over again. Using a toy in such a manner is an excellent way to control their orgasm.

Tying someone up would also allow you to tease someone to a degree they might not be able to tolerate otherwise. Blindfolding would heighten things even more. The loss of senses as well as control could be a very heady experience. There must be a level of trust to engage in such games with another person and know that they won’t leave you tied up or something similar.

 

 

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Chocolate Body Painting

Posted on October 22, 2012 by Sharon

The pleasure of chocolate and whipped cream is obvious, sex aside. Mix the two together and you have sheer, if messy, heaven…Chocolate body paints have been around for a few decades now. I recall the first time I heard of them in the early 1990’s when a friend of mine had a small retail store and she decided to carry some as a novelty item after she and her boyfriend at the time had tried it out and liked it. She laughed as she told me what naughty fun it was to paint naughty words on each others bodies and then proceed to lick them off with gusto!

It seems like a fun thing for sure. Cans of whipped cream have long been making blow jobs a bit more fun. There is a body writing fetish, where some guys like to write naughty words all over their partners, kind of marking them as their territory in doing so. Chocolate is certainly a lot more fun and temporary than a Sharpie marking pen! Though ones truly into that body writing fetish would only be pleased with the long lasting permanence of the marking pens. The chocolate is just a lick or a shower away from being erased totally.

I recall one male client that was into sucking cock liked to have chocolate involved and he said how grand it would be to have chocolate taste like cum, rather than most people that would say the opposite, to have cum taste like chocolate! He was a character to be sure. He loved to incorporate food into his and his partners love play, it just made it a lot more fun for him.

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Let’s Get it On With Some Mood Music…

Posted on October 15, 2012 by Sharon

Many people love to incorporate music into their lovemaking. Background music can add to the enjoyment for many, others find it distracting. Most people are music lovers though and like mood music to add to the experience. I’m in the find it distracting category.

I was inspired to write this after seeing a poll recently that had men’s and women’s opinions on this topic, and twice as many men found background music distracting as women did. Women overwhelmingly preferred to have music on in the background. I guess I’m with the boys on this one. I’d rather concentrate on my partner than be thinking of music in the background.

There have been some memorable music and sex scenes in movies, there was a funny scene from the movie “10” about the Ravel’s Bolero and how it’s perfectly written to have sex to. It’s a very funny movie I recommend. We can all think of various movies, usually comedies, where some guy is trying to seduce a girl and lowers the lights and puts on the “mood music” in the hopes of quickly turning things naughty

I have one client that loves to masturbate to fast paced pop songs, Avril Lavigne in particular, he pumps and pumps, it sounds like more of a workout than a relaxing masturbatory session, but whatever floats your boat. Music can add a different mood to any situation, but for background music for sex, both people should be in agreement as to what to listen to so one isn’t distracted at the others’ expense. What adds to an experience for some, takes away for another.

 

 

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Multi Orgasmic

Posted on October 8, 2012 by Sharon

One thing a lot of men are jealous about in women is their sexual stamina. The ability of many of us have to be multi orgasmic. Now don’t get me wrong, I know some guys are able to go multiple rounds, some certainly are, but not most. Most fall into the “One and you’re done” category. Now as long as they can last as long as I need them too, it’s usually not an issue if they can only cum once, but given the choice, I would of course always choose a guy that can match me orgasm for orgasm.

I don’t mind if they need to rest in between for 10-15 minutes, that is a good length of time for everyone to calm down, catch their breath and get ready for the next round. I don’t need to keep going with no breaks, but when they can keep going with you, I just find it a more pleasurable match. Even young ones are not always able to go round after round. I’m not sure what makes one able to continue on and another be out after one, but multi guys will always be my faves for sure!

Women luckily just do not have the same problems, staying hard, so we can’t relate since we have never had that issue. As long as I’ve caught my breath, I can keep going, but it can get to a numb state down there that stimulation gets difficult to bring you over that orgasmic edge. I can always cum, even if not horny, though it can take effort, sometimes a lot, but I can. I mentioned that to a guy and he couldn’t even imagine cumming if not horny, since they kind of have to be hard, and if not horny, then they are not hard, they have more variables than women do to overcome. More factors at play. Though I have talked to guys that can cum when not totally hard, ones that have erectile dysfunction problems. They really have their bodies working against them in a way women simply do not. Poor bastards!

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I Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter!

Posted on October 1, 2012 by Sharon

In “The Last Tango in Paris”, they used butter. In one of the “American Pie” movies, the horny teen accidentally used quick drying glue. What did they have in common? They were looking for a smooooooth ride with lube. There’s no better sex than “wet sex”. Dry is no good at all. A lot of women simply do not produce enough natural lubrication to make things a smooth ride shall we say. Getting older in the post menopausal years also creates a decrease for most in their lubrication.

There are so many different lubes out there, all with their own pros and cons, all you can do is try a variety and decide what works best for you.

I have tried a few different ones myself, with varying degrees of success. The silicone ones I do not care for, they leave a hard to remove coating on your skin. The thinner ones have an oily like consistency I don’t care for either. I tried the KY warming one in a sample I was mailed and didn’t care for it, it was a slightly warming feeling, but the oily consistency didn’t prove a smooth ride. The thicker, gel like regular KY feels the best to me.

I like the good old, cheap as it comes regular KY, which is good at first, but as it’s water based, and your skin quickly absorbs the water in it, you’re left with a gummy paste. I hate to say it, but the best thing to keep that gumminess down is a bit of saliva. Not the most charming answer, but, it does thin it out. I don’t think many of us have squirt bottle of water bedside to spray ourselves down with to thin down the lube as it gets gummy, but we do have spit readily available and many use it, believe me.

There are also flavored lubes, made for oral sex to make it more enjoyable and tastier. You just have to decide and experiment for yourself and decide what feels best and has longer lasting effects for you. There are so many to choose from in a wide range of prices.

 

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