I Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter!

In “The Last Tango in Paris”, they used butter. In one of the “American Pie” movies, the horny teen accidentally used quick drying glue. What did they have in common? They were looking for a smooooooth ride with lube. There’s no better sex than “wet sex”. Dry is no good at all. A lot of women simply do not produce enough natural lubrication to make things a smooth ride shall we say. Getting older in the post menopausal years also creates a decrease for most in their lubrication.

There are so many different lubes out there, all with their own pros and cons, all you can do is try a variety and decide what works best for you.

I have tried a few different ones myself, with varying degrees of success. The silicone ones I do not care for, they leave a hard to remove coating on your skin. The thinner ones have an oily like consistency I don’t care for either. I tried the KY warming one in a sample I was mailed and didn’t care for it, it was a slightly warming feeling, but the oily consistency didn’t prove a smooth ride. The thicker, gel like regular KY feels the best to me.

I like the good old, cheap as it comes regular KY, which is good at first, but as it’s water based, and your skin quickly absorbs the water in it, you’re left with a gummy paste. I hate to say it, but the best thing to keep that gumminess down is a bit of saliva. Not the most charming answer, but, it does thin it out. I don’t think many of us have squirt bottle of water bedside to spray ourselves down with to thin down the lube as it gets gummy, but we do have spit readily available and many use it, believe me.

There are also flavored lubes, made for oral sex to make it more enjoyable and tastier. You just have to decide and experiment for yourself and decide what feels best and has longer lasting effects for you. There are so many to choose from in a wide range of prices.

 

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Orgasms

What greater pleasure is there when it comes to sex or masturbation than an orgasm? That is the ultimate goal now, isn’t it? To be able to so simply produce such a fantastic sensation by a bit of rubbing, it’s incredible. To be able to alleviate that feeling of horniness and genital pressure and feel so good, it’s a wonderful thing that makes the world go round.

A woman can have sex without an orgasm, but for even procreation to exist, it needs that orgasm to get things pumping. Now technically, I know some sperm can exist in pre ejaculatory fluid and a conception can take place, but the majority is in the ejaculate which comes from the ultimate pleasure of the human orgasm.

It feels so good, no need to wait to have a sexual partner to make us feel that, just by enjoying ourselves from a young age most of us can experience that spectacular feeling of release and satisfaction and relaxation that comes from having an orgasm.

Medicine has long studied the effects of such an event. It seems hard to understand people would ever want others to not enjoy themselves, that they went out of their way to inhibit having orgasms that were not for procreative purposes. Anti masturbatory devices and guilt trips by religions, etc.

An orgasm makes your entire body relax, is a good cardio vascular workout, gets your blood pumping and keeps your reproductive plumbing in good working order. Men are in the best prostate health if they are having a minimum of 21 orgasms a month. Keeping things inside and inhibited does no one any good.

If you’re not lucky enough to have a partner, then you have to go it alone, but it still feels mighty good. It might not be emotionally satisfying, as one of my guys calls it, a “utility orgasm” is just a release, but keeps you sane. Try and have as many as possible!

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Erotica

A pleasure for many that are alone masturbating or sharing with a partner is written erotica. It can help spice up many a masturbatory experience. Ones into cyber sex are also looking to the written word from another person to get them off.

Erotic stories can really get the juices flowing. Many think ladies are not as into erotica as men might be, but I think it’s more women into it than men. Look at the romance novels. Not all are graphic, but many are extremely so. I was quite into romance novels in my teens and twenties and trust me, they can be plenty graphic and inspire many lustful thoughts.

I recall in my childhood my introduction to sexuality was pretty much from reading my mom’s hidden Nancy Friday books afterschool she had hidden away. For those of you not familiar with them, I highly suggest you look them up.

Many couples enjoy reading erotic fiction to one another to help get things started, and there are a number of sites online where users submit their original erotic fiction and share it with the world. The sites are widely used by horny people looking to spice up their masturbation.

Words can paint a picture and get images swirling in your mind as you envision the events unfolding in your mind that are spelled out on the page. It’s like you have a movie playing in your head, a very erotic and naughty movie! So enjoy the poetic descriptions of lust on the page before you.

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Erotic Shaving

How much do you trust your lover? Would you trust them with a razor next to your most sensitive spots? Does instilling that kind of trust arouse you, or frighten you?

Erotic shaving can be a very intimate part of a couples lovemaking. I consider shaving a chore to be gotten over with as fast as possible. I can’t imagine bothering a lover to assist you with grooming needs, but to many, it can be an extremely arousing experience that is showing how much you trust them by letting them come at your privates with a sharp razor blade. Or maybe an electric razor would be a safer choice, it’s what I use, no chance of cutting with that one. But it also doesn’t lend itself to the type of trust required for an erotic shaving experience.

Some couples will have an entire shaving ritual surrounding their pre-lovemaking, bringing a bowl of water, a towel, a razor and soap or shaving foam to bed and then letting your lover make you all smooth and pretty, usually with a round of oral sex right afterwards to savor the smooth skin.

One of my phone sex partners that had me watch him on cam, I wasn’t too pleased with his hairy appearance and mentioned shaving, and he said he’d envisioned me shaving him before we would make love together. I was touched at his words, the thought of him trusting me to do that to him. Would be very arousing, I am sure if ever we were to meet.

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Handjob Heaven

A sexual pleasure pretty well all enjoy is a good handjob, man or woman. Some I talk to are not able to cum from intercourse alone, and it has to be by hand to get them off.

Of course most of us learned about what an orgasm is like by masturbating ourselves and knowing what feels good to us, so a hand job by another person is usually our first introduction to sex. Many a young girl might not be willing or ready to give herself fully to her first boyfriend, but chances are good she’s willing to give him a handjob, that’s pretty well the first step. Then oral, then intercourse, but if the people involved are young enough, they may not be ready for a full fledged sexual relationship, so it may stay in handjob territory for a while.

It’s pretty innocent and feels good and different having someone else touch you in a way you are only used to touching yourself. The hand can have a firmer grip and touch than any blow job or intercourse, and indeed some men that have not had much experience with women are so used to their own hand they find they are unable to cum any other way than by hand. Their own or that of their partner.

Using our hands on another person to give them pleasure is a nice experience, and often in massage parlors clients expect a “Happy ending” to their massage, since it feels so good getting their bodies rubbed down, they want a nice orgasm to cap things off. Seems a natural way to end a massage.

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